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If your child is at the career cross road December 3, 2011

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If your child is at the career cross road

Recently I attended a marriage reception. These wedding parties sometimes give you the feel of getting stranded at a fuel station. You have to stand in the long queue near the stage and wait for your turn to greet the newlywed couple!  It was 9.00 pm in the late evening and I was somehow killing time in the queue. I was anxious to dispose-off the bouquet at the earliest.

I realized someone was throwing a smile at me. It was the parent of one of the school student who had once upon a time appeared for a career guidance & counseling session with me in my office. On that very spot, standing in the queue, the concerned parents threw rapid fire round of questions at me. Sir, I want to see my daughter as an engineer, can you tell us which all colleges outside our state should we target? How should she be preparing for the examinations? Some study tips from you will really be helpful for my daughter to excel in her career, so on and so forth…..

I could see the agony in the eyes of the child. After a while I could even register a sense of embarrassment on the face of the kid. Definitely she did not want to be bothered on career selection and study tips while in the party. Any child will not like this. Parent of this student were a bit too concerned about her career. Excess concern borders paranoia. 

Many parents complain about their child’s education & career consciousness in multiple variants. A few shared here: “My child does not share his interests with me.”, “I am ready to help him but he is never keen to take our support.”, “The child is introvert at home and extrovert in school.”, “He is so stubborn when it comes to career selection and does not give us a damn.”.  

If your child is at a career crossroad she is at a very sensitive career stage. It is really rightful for the parent to be bothered about their ward’s career. It is also of utmost importance to respect the child’s individuality and give her space. I have observed that in the process of imparting right career directions to their children many parents intrude into their creativity and independence. Such attempts either miss fires or worst back fires. Such illegitimate intrusions are harmful not just for the child and the parent but also for the society.

Too much involvement in child’s career building process is equally harmful as too less involvement is. Some parents make an open offer to their children. They say, “Go ahead and do whatever you want to, we will support you”.  This decision to respect the child’s decision is really good but not really fruitful. It is the moral responsibility of the parent to first suggest a few career options and then ask the child to make a career choice. It is vital to note at this stage that before making any suggestion, child should be thoroughly accessed on interest, aptitude and abilities. Careers matching with these parameters should then be suggested to the child. If required support of professional counselors should necessarily be sought.

As per one survey an average student in India spends not more than 4 hours throughout the school life planning for life’s career decisions. Majority of the students are simply not aware of the various career options available in the society!   On the contrary they spend more than 20 hours on selecting the bike / scooty and about 50 hours selecting a house.

Career decision has a big significance in one’s life. Students should be encouraged to think on the following questions while they are crossing the middle school : “What should I do in my life?”, “what is my career inspiration”,  “what are my most liked and most disliked career streams”, “How & when should I plan my career?” When the student starts addressing these questions, we can be sure that she has started climbing the ladder of career success.

I believe that every single student has the potential to become successful in life. Parents should play the role of a light house & a guide post. They should shower enough light for the child to take a leap and also warn when there is danger.  Their support & guidance should enable the student to take informed career decisions & prepare well for future.


  • Failing to plan for child’s career is nothing but planning to see your child fail in her career.
  • In the process of guiding your child please ensure that you guard her self esteem. Irrelevant tinkering into her aspiration will only make her restless, insecure and insincere.
  • It is important for the parent to be self aware about career choices and be confidant about happenings in life, only then the child will inculcate these attributes.
  • Over indulgence by parent into child’s choices might display lack of trust. Beware.
  • Law of career success states that the child should select the career which she is desperate for and not the one which her parents were ambitious for at some point of time.


By : Ajit Varwandkar

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Birth of an Unemployable Engineer July 16, 2011

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Admission session is back on cards. Various academic institutes across India are into the refilling mode. Recently we had the news from Shri Ram College of Commerce, New Delhi about the mind shattering 100% cut-off marks for admission. The demand supply imbalance of seats versus prospective students has surfaced yet again. Engineering has traditionally been the most preferred & “rest assured” choice of professional career for students and parent’s alike. Getting an Engineering degree is like a dream achieved. However the story post engineering is not all that encouraging these days. We have seen a large mass of unemployed engineering students struggling hard, unsuccessfully, to get into employment.

Time and again we get to see those enticing advertisements from various colleges imparting professional education. We also come to understand that India is on the path of exponential industrial growth & that industry would be requiring thousands and lacks of qualified manpower in years to come. A very important question which one thinks of is “In spite of seemingly win-win scenario for students and industry both, why is there a situation where thousands of unemployed engineers flock on the roads every year? There has to be some remarkably important phenomenon responsible to catalyze this situation. To my understanding the main reason behind this situation is that some of the institutions are giving birth to unemployable engineers. The obvious blame flame targets the mushrooming of engineering institutes, short sighted policies, lack of vision etc. On the contrary I think there is one more factor responsible for this imbalance. You would agree with me that it is the input which justifies the output. We need to take a serious look into the kind of students intake today’s institutes of excellence are forced to acquire. A few of real life experiences will elucidate my views in the next paragraph.

A parent visited us last week and wanted career counseling for their child. Father is a reputed builder and desperately wanted his son to join his business. Sir please guide my son to become a Civil Engineer. It was a close ended request. Father had not given any alternates to his son. On the first place I had doubts if the young lad even had an aptitude for engineering, leave aside civil engineering. The kid confessed, he wanted to become a stage artist. In spite of all the guidance and counseling efforts, the psychometric assessments et al, I know the boy will have to digest the qualification of Civil Engineering.

In yet another real life experience a girl child spoils her career because her parent’s are too liberal. They not only assured her to give her the financial support to visit a career counselor and get the most professional advise but also to arrange for the best education infrastructure for her. “Do what you want to & we shall support you financially” goes their words. The girl got all the more confused. All choices and no signboards from parent! Which way should I go?

Choices are the hinges of destiny, said Pythagorus. Surely so and very true also. More so when one is on cross roads of career and the decision taken today will decide the direction of the future life. With thousands and lacs of engineering seats available in India getting admission to an Engineering College is not much an issue. Any institute is as good or as bad as its faculty, campus placements and students provided the Institute is statutorily accredited and recognized.

Friends, students & parents let me share a secret with you. “Just like all medicines are helpful to cure some or the other illness but this happens only when the doctor reads the symptoms rightly and prescribe the right medicine, likewise all Engineering Branches lead to success – what is required is to have the right match.” To select the right branch is a very serious decision. This shall define the course of your career. In the process of making this decision students get strongly influenced by parents, peers and people in general. The opinion of every person you meet contributes in creating thought ripples. In the field of engineering there are immense opportunities for those with the right attitude, skills. The need is to choose the right branch as per the interest and aptitude parameter of ones personality. Opportunities will definitely follow those students who select the right academic slot for themselves. Even in times of recent recession, exciting opportunities were available for technically qualified & EMPLOYABLE manpower.

Making a BRANCH SELECTION is all the more tough when the choices are more. Before taking the right decision students should necessarily meet and discuss with at least two on job working engineers from every stream of engineering and get their opinions about the particular branch. Selecting a branch of engineering also depends on the students career planning. It is must that students should be able to evaluate their inherent personality traits and match it against those which may be the mandatory determinants for any particular branch of engineering. Not all branches of engineering may be suitable to every student. For example if you have a extremely introvert personality and you desire to become a civil engineer or get into construction activities in your life, it may not be really the right decision for you since civil engineering on field ( mostly) requires the traits of extrovert personality.

Every engineering field has its own set of challenges and opportunities. The student should first logically establish the best preferred stream of engineering by getting a. professional psychometric consultation. Having established the best branches the student should introspect and reflect about his/ her aptitude, interest and personality, the strength areas and match it with the career goal.  A lot of material is available on the internet which can be surfed to get a glimpse into the engineering branch selection subject. Its however wise & fruitful to consult seniors in the industry, teachers & placement managers, counselors & education coaches before jumping on to the final decision.


1. All branches of engineering have the potential to deliver a great future to the student.

2. More than selection of the institute it is the selection of the right branch which is more critical.

3. Before finalizing on any institute a student should necessarily be satisfied with the institutes accreditation status. You have all the rights to ask for these details.

4. Understand & analyse your aptitude, interest & skills and use this report to select the right branch of engineering.

5. It pays to discuss with senior / just pass-out students & relevant working professionals in the industry to get more insight about the institute and the various streams of education in engineering.

Ajit Varwandkar

Email : info@fsindia.in

4,90,000 parent’s failed in IIT ! May 28, 2011

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4,90,000 parent’s failed in IIT !

“Sir, my son is average in studies, he is not an extra ordinary student. Can you please help us suggest him the right career?” Working as a career counselor we come across such statements from accompanying parent’s more often than less. It is really heartening to see parents de-motivating their ward when it is their responsibility to be the source of inspiration for them. Most of the times this happens unintentionally but it surely devaluates the self esteem of the child.

IIT Jee results are out. Almost five lac students participated in this engineering race and less than ten thousand students qualified to get admission into India’s best engineering institutes. As per statistics out of every 200 student only 1 got to enter the prestigious institutes! By all means this is a very tough competition. I read in newspaper that son of a vegetable vendor qualified for IIT Jee in Chhattisgarh. In Bangalore a student who works part time as a bartender in a wine shop got through in the examination. These are those special cases where the hard work and preparation got an opportunity to meet success.

Almost every school in India had a list of few students qualifying in the tests. For the school authorities and management the success of their students in similar examinations becomes a matter of pride and fuel for their growth & prosperity in future. Appreciation goes only to those who get the winning certificate. Students who qualify in the entrance examination get a lot of accolades. It’s like a festival of congratulations where the whole world wants to hug the winners. The school teachers, the coaching institutes, parents, friends and seniors – all clamor around the winners to claim their share of the credit in making the student a success. Banners, Posters and Media play a prominent role in glamorizing the success of these successful students. 

I sit back to think about the state of mind of the majority.  When the demand supply is lopsided & there is a rush to get the best, majority never wins. In any such competitive examination the majority lies with those who could not cross the barrier. What about the balance nine lakh ninety thousand students? Are they good for nothing? Are they not worth making a great career for themselves? Had there been 1000 more seats available in the education system, may be those borderline thousand students would also have got an opportunity to celebrate success.  Tragedy happens when many parent’s forget that these examinations are just a means of eliminating applicants in order to offer admission to selected students in their institutes. Parent’s forget the fact that these examinations are not to identify how dumb or how intelligent their ward is.

Father of a meritorious student informed me that his daughter did not qualify for JEE. This was a rude shock for the school, the teacher & for the friends. While the father was demonstrating absolute cool de-mean-our I could see dejection on the face of the kid. Sometimes there are no answers to questions in life. May be the child did not fill up the answer sheet properly, may be the answer sheet got mixed up, maybe she did not write the roll number correctly or maybe she did not understand the negative marking pattern of the examinations. Something surely went wrong somewhere.  It was time for the family and friends to accept the result and move ahead. What the father further said was heart stimulating “There is nothing to be shocked about failures in life. I do not take this as a heart break. My daughter has many other options for success and we are going party today!”  I recalled the proverb “Failure is nothing but a delayed success!”

Not all children are lucky to have so considerate & thoughtful parent.  It is the responsibility of biological parents to evolve into matured parent. Examinations like IIT JEE or any other engineering / medical examinations actually put the parent of contesting students to test. It is their natural anxiety to ensure that they want their ward to get the best. Many parent sacrifice their happiness and wealth to ensure that the child gets the best academic infrastructure.  I know of a father who sold of his only property to get his son educated at one of the best coaching institute in Rajasthan last season. In spite of his inputs his son did not qualify. As a result the whole family got mentally derailed and went into psychological disorder.  There are many such examples in the country. Out of the 4,90,000 families of students who did not qualify for IIT JEE this year, I am sure majority won’t be prepared to take the negative results. Dejections in life should as well be taken with dignity. Rejection does not mean the end of life, it only means there is an area of improvement.

Recently in a leading national daily there was a news item which said that a few students from IIM Ahemdabad and Bangalore were asked to tell what part of their childhood they would like to change given they had such an opportunity. A few students cried and said they wanted to become something else in their career and definitely not a management graduate! Their parent’s coerced them into the management education! One family came to us for guidance & psychometric career assessment. They were taken aback & broken down when we informed that their child has an aptitude into fine arts. Engineering or medical might not be the most apt career for the kid. The father was a senior PSU officer and desperately wanted to father an engineering student. Reason being he missed the engineering race in his career trajectory. In most of the family’s parent inflict their children with their unfulfilled career desires. A father – mother combine can become the best counselor for the child. They should properly access the strength areas of the child and direct the child into similar directions.

My dear parent’s, it’s not your children alone who face the examinations, it is you who have to actually pass or fail. It’s time to take responsibility and show reasonable upbringing ability at home.  It is vital for today’s parent to create the right atmosphere at home. It is their responsibility to prepare children to take on the challenges & examinations in life. Majority of the parent’s will have to learn to hold their anxiety and control their emotions. Do not just scold your child for his / her not performing upto expectations. Show them the varied options for the future and appraise them on the opportunities for improvement. If you feel you are not really competent to do this, hire professional services but please do not mess up with the mindset of your child. Believe me your kid takes your words very seriously. Your words can make him / her a leader or a laggard. In private or in public, always use positive adjectives for your children. You may not see immediate results of positive affirmations but negative words will surely kill the motivation instantly.

Lessons for Excellence :

  1. Results of any academic examination should never be treated as the ultimate result. The menu card in the restaurant of Life will have much more to offer beyond these results!
  2. Children should always have fallback options in place. If career plan A does not work, Plan B might! In-fact one should have a career plan C also in place.   
  3. Parent’s please note: your words and actions are being watched by your children. Please demonstrate absolute maturity when addressing the child’s performance ( or non performance ) in public or at home.
  4. Parent’s – never push your unfulfilled career aspirations down the throat of your child. Let her personality evolve in tune with her strengths.
  5. Finally, if the child fails in any examination   – he/she should not be blamed alone for it. Parent, School & society should take the collective responsibility.


Ajit Varwandkar

Email : info@fsindia.in

Who moved my Chance? Who moved my Chance? November 21, 2010

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A news item in a local daily caught my attention, the headlines said “Scotland Yard to be Trained on Facebook & Twitter”. Looks like an exceptional move by the London government & administration to provide their staff training into new dimensions of social networking. Surely cyber crimes have seen an incremental growth since the increase in the number of internet users across the world. One would think that this training is from the point of view to arrest cyber crime but the fact lies that the police in UK is getting a training on Twitter & Facebook in order to use it as a tool to track & follow all kinds of criminals!

Once upon a time I was following singer Shreya Ghoshal on twitter through my account (@varwandkar). Being thousands of kilometers away I could clearly visualize where would the singer be as of now by deciphering her tweets! That’s when I advised her not to advertise her current location even indirectly by way of tweets! One never knows who may be following with what intentions! Same is the story with facebook & many other social media platforms. I am told about a story in Durham where a criminal learned everything about the victims bungalow just by scanning all the photographs uploaded by the victim on social network! The dacoit planned & executed the loot basis that information and escaped happily!

Training & retraining is really a mandatory tool for growth and success in today’s ever evolving world. Nothing is constant in this world except change. Yesterday’s technology is extinct today. Take a new computer or a cell phone and ask for its resell value after a few minutes, you will visualize the fast pace of change! It is said that a new car depreciates about twenty percentage the time it rolls down the car dealer’s showroom!

One of the CEO’s while addressing employees in a yearly speech said “Friends, today we have to run to stay where we are! Think what we will be required to grow?” Think of the fast pace of the world around – to stay where you are you need to be running! Old is the adage which says that stagnant water gets stale .. today if you are walking you may be left behind by many…. Not only this, you may loose your chance in a wink! Even running will not take you ahead, to move further you need to jump, leap, take turns, re-turns, bend, duck, hide & move …. finally evolve!

Message here is to embrace the change & be the change yourself. Evolve with the new era and the new technology. Your ignorance will not be excused, better be abreast, be prepared and try to be ahead of the technology and the change! Worst your rigidness to accept new dimensions is likely to be ruthlessly punished by the social environment around! In order to learn new lessons, at time we may have to unlearn the old ones, not because those lessons were wrong but because the context may have changed. There may not always be second chance to opt for the first opportunity on your way! Look around, there may be something new invading your old ways!

Ajit Varwandkar
Managing Director, http://www.aglakadam.com
Author Can be contacted on : info@fsindia.in

HONESTY is just a POLICY! October 23, 2010

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We do teach school students morals in life. Honesty is the best policy was one of the first phrases I learned in my life. Moral Science was a very important subject in school curriculum. We were taught moral science in school which we not only learnt by heart but also assimilated in our character in life. I remember those days when at home we used to get additional lessons on values in life skills by way of Panchatantra Stories etc. But it seems civilization has changed drastically and so have social values.

It was one of those days when Common Wealth Games was making the news headlines ( for Gold reasons!) One morning while reading newspaper my daughter asked me a question which triggered various thought processes very vital for today’s society in general and the education policy makers in specific. Here is sharing it all with you ….

The news goes like this : India bags 6 more Gold medal’s in the Common Wealth Games…. My daughter Mahima, who is a class VIIth school student, reads it loud for all of us around to listen & then remarks.. “looks like something is wrong…” I questioned her : “What is wrong about this? India gets Gold Medals & this is a reason for us to cheer and be happy…!” No Papa I didn’t mean that, yes I am happy with the Gold medals and the achievements but I never saw India getting so many Gold medals so I thought something was fishy! I asked her about her perceived apprehension, the answer was startling : She said : I think the game is fixed, India being the host country we are getting more medals then what we deserve… I snapped back : What nonsense dear, the players have practiced and performed ..hence they are winning and the reward follows…. You should not think negative.

Yes dad, I know that its not good to be negative.. but is there anything negative in suspecting that a game is fixed? In the previous few months we have been reading in news paper that various cricket games are fixed! Even in the school assembly when children have to read news, they have orated such news at times! Dad looks like you are not aware, there is a lot going wrong about these Common Wealth Games.. I read so much about one minister called Kamadi who is being blamed for so many mistakes in the CWG stadium!

With such a reply from a class seven student I got dumb stuck. What morals should we teach our children? More important how do we justify them what we teach? When we tell our children that it’s a bad habit to abuse, why does the next person on the street do so? why does the actor in the movie does so on a cinemascope screen or a TV show? We teach children about hygiene habits then why does we see so many people easing off by the street? What ever we teach them they try to correlate it with the world around them. It is getting increasingly a challange to teach & inculcate values in today’s generation. Today’s children demand that whatever is preached should be practiced also, not just by the teachers and the parents but by the society in general! When they do not find a synchronization they get confused. This is where their personality shatters.

One more reason is the excessive exposure to media – our children are exposed to the good as well as the bad in the society. You pick up a television sop and mostly you will find that it the story is based on some plot of a never ending conspiracy! Worst, invariably the conspiracy is played in between relationships and not enemies! You can see stories where a brother conspires against a brother or a mother in law is secretly working against the daughter in law, husband wife & the third relation stories are a common place now a days. Even the kids can guess such connections in a television sop while we teach them at home not to tell lies, be honest. Sorry sir, honesty does not deliver the desired results in today’s world always.. I was shocked when a parent informed me that their seven year old kid is used to telling a lie just for the sake of evading homework!

When we look deep into the evolution of all this, it seems as if the excess of exposure to our kids either through media or other wise is the culprit. Evil was always there in life, there has been no generation without a immoral clan around in the society. The only difference was that earlier the children then were not exposed to all that. The only information about bad person was in fairy tales. The question is what ever we teach our children at home or at school, if the society does not endorse it will the teaching get assimilated? Will we then have a valid stand to stand by our teachings in front of these students? Today do we have the answers to the questioning eyes of our young generation. Ethics & ethical behavior is not the agenda of today’s children, they are getting exposed to the latest in the technology but surely their value system is getting degraded day by day.

The real world is day by day becoming a rough & tough place to be. Today’s student have to be fully prepared to face it. Classroom education in itself does not make our students better prepared to face the world. It is the responsibility of us citizens of the country to take on this responsibility and behave in a balanced manner in public at least. A lot needs to be done on this. Come lets start thinking and as they say austerity starts at home, lets be a responsible parent at home in every wake of our life.

Ajit Varwandkar
Managing Director

The Right Thinking MBA’s July 16, 2010

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It is always refreshing to meet the fresh batch of students getting into the colleges. You not only get inspired by the indomitable energy of the youth but also get new dimensions of thought processes. I try never to miss any opportunity which comes my way to interact with the real young world! Recently I had an opportunity to visit a few management institutes to address the upcoming new batch management students in the new session. The students were all energetic though the teachers had different stream of thoughts. I share two such thought streams here :

Thought Stream I : What ever action or activity one does in life is an out come of either of the following two functions :

1. Its your responsibility
2. Its your choice

Professor Saket shares his experience and encourages students to think on these lines. He says in case you are doing an activity because it is your responsibility, you are not likely to be successful in the activity. Your performance of that activity may deliver results but may not give you happiness and satisfaction. He goes ahead to suggest the students that they should follow the following two rules :

a) Convert your responsibility into your choice.
b) If rule a above is not possible, do not do the activity!

Thought Stream I : Professor Suyash speaks out his experience to the MBA students & tells them that there are only two rules in the corporate world :

1. Only the boss is always right.
2. If this does not work follow the rule no 1.

Think of it.. if such is the first lesson to be taught in the management school, what can you expect the future managers in the country to deliver?

    Excellence Lesson :

When we orient our students to take on the challenges of the corporate world we need to ensure that they do not enter the business world with a fixed set of mind frame. The students should be given the facts & figures to think over. They should be enabled to research & think over the data.

  • They should be taught to think transparently, logically, objectively and there by reach to a decision.
  • One of the biggest challenges with today’s management institutions is to focus on delivering & inculcating the thinking skills. If we do not teach our students to “think right” they will not grow up to identify the right solutions. By default we are delivering the follower managers, not the leader managers from our institutes today. The major share of responsibility to teach this lies with our professors & teachers in the management institutes.

    I am reminded of Edward De Bono’s concept of

      Six Thinking Hats

    which is a powerful tool to help one to look at important decisions from a number of different perspectives. It helps in taking better decisions. It pushes one outside the habitual ways of thinking. I suggest this should be one of the first lessons to be taught to our students preparing for the corporate world.

    It so happens that thoughts fail to or are biased from the view point of emotional, intuitive, creative or negative ideas. Similarly it may also happen that while making a decision a manager may be excessively defensive and dogmatic.

    Always remember that successful people think from a very rational, positive viewpoint, and this is a very important reason behind their success. Make a glossary of successful managers and check it out for yourself. An MBA in today’s world without an independent, fact based, lateral & justified thinking ability is not likely to grow up the success echelons.

    Ajit Varwandkar
    Managing Director,
    FS Management (I) Pvt. Ltd.

    February 26, 2010

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    HELP your child perform well in examinations! ( source – Naiduniya) February 23, 2010

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    Parents role in examinations

    How can parents help their child perform better in examinations!

    सिटी भास्कर की एग्जाम काउंसिलिंग —अब टेंशन हो गई फुर्र… February 19, 2010

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    सिटी भास्कर की एग्जाम काउंसिलिंग के बाद बोले स्टुडेंट
    अब टेंशन हो गई फुर्र…
    सिटी भास्कर की और से गुरुवार को आयोजित एग्जाम काउंसिलिंग में दर्जनों स्टुडेंट शामिल हुए | काउंसिलिंग के बाद स्टुडेंट्स ने कहा, काउंसलर और सब्जेक्ट एक्सपर्ट से मिले टिप्स परीक्षा की तैयारियों में मददगार साबित होंगे | अब हम टेंशन फ्री होकर पढ़ाई पर ध्यान केन्द्रित कर सकेंगे | काउंसिलिंग में कुछ पैरेंट्स भी शामिल हुए |
    सिटी रिपोर्ट
    काउंसिलिंग में विशेषज्ञों ने बोर्ड परीक्षा में शामिल होने जा रहे स्टुडेंट्स को बताया कि परीक्षा के तनाव को कम करें और सकारात्मक सोच अपनाएं | परीक्षा को अब कम ही समय रह गया है | ऐसे में किसी नए चैप्टर कि शुरुआत करने कि बजाय, जो पढ़ें है उसे ही अच्छे से पढ़ें | पढ़ाई के साथ ही खान – पान का भी बराबर ध्यान दें | काउंसलर्स ने कहा, लाख समझाने पर भी स्टुडेंट्स के मन में परीक्षा को लेकर तनाव तो रहता ही हैं | इस स्थिति में दिमाग को ज्यादा ऑक्सिजन कि जरुरत होती है, जो उचित खानपान से ही संभव है | चिंता करें, लेकिन इतनी नहीं कि सब कुछ भूल जाएँ | पढ़ाई को यदि बोझ समझेंगे, तो कभी सार्थक फल नहीं मिलेगा | उन्होंने कहा, यह मत सोचो कि पास होना है, यह सोचो कि छत्तीसगढ़ में टॉप करना है , इसलिए जब भी पढ़ो पूरे मन से पढ़ो |

    आल इस वेल :- परीक्षा होंल में स्माईल के साथ प्रवेश करें, ऐसा करने से मस्तिष्क में ब्लड सरकुलेशन तेज हो जाता हैं | दिमाग और मन दोनों ही आपके नियंत्रण में रहते हैं और वह दोगुनी तेजी से काम करेंगे | जब हम खुश होतें हैं तो सब कुछ अच्छा लगता है | इसी तरह परीक्षा को भी ख़ुशी – ख़ुशी लें | यह समझे कि सालभर जो कुछ सिखा है उसे दिखाने का समय आ गया है अगर फिर भी मन न माने तो तो दिल पर हाथ रखे और बोले आल इज वेल |

    अपना आकलन स्वयं करें

    कैरियर काउंसलर वर्षा वरवंडकर ने बड़ी ही सरलता से काउंसिलिंग में शामिल सभी स्टुडेंट्स के प्रश्नों का जवाब दिया | उन्होंने बताया की परीक्षा के वक़्त तनाव होना जरूरी भी है, लेकिन इतना नहीं की पढ़ा हुआ याद ही न हो पाए| हर स्टुडेंट्स का अपना बॉडी क्लोक होता है | किसी को रात में पढ़ना अच्छा लगता है, तो किसी को सुबह | आप भी अपना बॉडी क्लोक समझे और उसके अनुसार काम करें | यह सोचकर कभी नहीं पढ़े कि आपका दोस्त ज्यादा देर तक पढ़ता है, आप तो बस यह सोचे की आप कब तक पढ़ सकतें हैं ? 45 से 50 मिनट लगातार पढ़ने के बाद 5 से 10 मिनट का ब्रेक जरूर लें | याद रखें की मनोरंजन का समय खाने में नमक की तरह होनी चाहिए, न तो बहुत ज्यादा न बहुत कम | शारीर के लिए 6 घंटे की नींद बहुत जरूरी है | इसलिए शरीर को प्रोपर रेस्ट भी दें | उन्होंने बेस्ट का संधिविच्छेद करते हुए बताया की बी – हेल्दी बॉडी, ई – इंटरटेनमेंट, एस – एफ्फेक्टिव स्टडी और टी – टॉक टु राईट पर्सन, ऐसा करने से स्ट्रेस कम होगा |
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    इम्तहान/परीक्षा से पहले बच्चों के आम सवाल February 17, 2010

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    आज परीक्षा हेल्प लाइन का जबरदस्त प्रतिसाद मिला |छात्रो ने कुछ इस तरह के सवाल पूछे —

    1. इम्तहानों के वक़्त मैं बहुत ज्यादा चिंतित हो जाने के कारण अपना पेपर बिगाड़ बैठता हूँ , इससे मुक्ति कैसे पाऊँ?
    2.यदि मैं पेपर पूरा न कर पाया तो ?
    3.इम्तहान के समय मुझे मितली आने लगती है व आँखों के आगे अँधेरा छाने लगता है, मैं क्या करूं?
    4.इम्तहानों के दिनों में मैं इतना तनावग्रस्त हो जाता हूँ कि एकाग्र नहीं हो पाता, इससे छुटकारा पाने का क्या कोई उपाय है?
    5.मेरा आत्मविश्वास एकदम गायब हो जाता है, क्या करूं ?
    6.यदि मुझे कुछ न आए, तो मैं क्या करूं?
    7.अगर मेरा रिजल्ट अच्छा न आया तो?
    उपाय <

    1. बहुत चिंता न करें| इससे निबटने के लिए कुछ आराम पहुँचाने वाले व्यायाम करें|
    2.अपने स्टडी रूम को साफ-सुथरा और हवादार रखें |
    3.पढ़ाई के लिए सुविधाजनक कुर्सी-मेज व रौशनी का प्रबंध हो |
    4.रोशनी सीधी पुस्तक पर पड़नी चाहिए |
    5.बिस्तर पर लेट कर बिलकुल न पढ़े
    6.निरंतर पढ़ते ही न जाएँ | एक घंटे पढ़ाई कर ली हो, तो 10मिनट के लिए टहल लें | आँखें बंद करके उन पर अपनी हथेलिया रखें | इससे आँखों को विश्राम मिलेगा|
    7.आँखें थक जाएँ तो साफ पानी से छींटे मारें |
    8.अध्ययन के दौरान अपनी पसंद व मौसम के अनुसार बीच बीच में जूस, नीबू की शिकंजी, चाय या ग्लूकोस लेते रहें |
    9.इम्तहानों के दिनों में दौड़ने भागनेवाले खेल या थकानेवाले व्यायाम करने के बजाय एकांत में योग करें |.सुबह जल्दी घूमनेजाएँ

    |Varsha Varwandkar , Career Counselor ,www.aglakadam.com ,Raipur