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Whom to Blame? Why to Blame? March 30, 2010

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A friend forwarded this story to me… sharing for all readers here :

Whom to blame?

Boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage.

They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes.

When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open.

He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. his wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its colour and drank it all.

It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

QUESTIONS:

1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?

ANSWER : The husband just said “I am with you Darling”

The husband’s totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behaviour.

The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.

There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.

No one is to be blamed. She had lost her only child. Her sorrow & grief had no limits… What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

    MORAL OF THE STORY

Let us all land into the world of Emotionally Intelligent Behaviour!

Ajit Varwandkar
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http://www.aglakadam.com

IN the IT age, see how our computers are Serviced March 23, 2010

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in the IT age our COMPUTERS are services like this!

ग्रैंडपेरेंट्स एंड ग्रैंडचिल्ड्रंस दिवस March 18, 2010

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तेजी से भागते समय में संयुक्त परिवारों का चलन भले ही कम हो गया हो, लेकिन घरों में दादा-दादी की मौजूदगी की महत्ता अपनी जगह कायम है। इस बात से सभी सहमत हैं कि घरों में बुजुर्गों की मौजूदगी बच्चों को न केवल संस्कारयुक्त बनाती है, बल्कि उन्हें असामाजिकता और आपराधिक प्रवृत्ति की ओर झुकने से भी बचाती है।

समाजशास्त्री डॉ. भूपेंद्र गौतम ने कहा कि बदलते परिवेश में बच्चों की सही देखभाल के लिए घरों में दादा-दादी का होना जरूरी हो गया है। डॉ. गौतम ने कहा समाज का स्वरूप बहुत बदल गया है। संयुक्त के स्थान पर एकल परिवारों की संख्या तेजी से बढ़ गई है, लेकिन अभी भी कई पहलुओं को ध्यान में रखते हुए बच्चों के लिए घरों में बुजुर्गों के रूप में दादा-दादी या नाना-नानी की मौजूदगी जरूरी है।
डॉ. गौतम ने कहा कई अध्ययनों से साबित हुआ है कि जिन घरों में बच्चे बुजुर्गों की छत्र-छाया में पलते हैं, उनमें आपराधिक प्रवृत्ति कम दिखती है। दिल्ली जैसे शहरों में युवाओं में अपराध की ओर झुकाव के बहुत मामले दिखाई पड़ते हैं, ऐसे में घरों में बुजुर्गों का होना एक सामाजिक जरूरत बन गया है।
पेशे से शिक्षक डॉ. सरोज नारायण का मानना है कि घर में दादा-दादी की मौजूदगी बच्चों में सामाजिकता का विकास करती है। डॉ. सरोज ने कहा घर में अगर बच्चों के दादा-दादी रहते हों, तो बच्चों में सामाजिकता और व्यावहारिकता बढ़ती है। आज कल बच्चे भी अपनी दुनिया में व्यस्त और दीन-दुनिया से बेखबर रहते हैं, ऐसे में घर के बड़े ही उन्हें व्यावहारिक ज्ञान दे सकते हैं।
डॉ. सरोज ने कहा बुजुर्गों के साथ रहने वाले बच्चे परिवार की महत्ता को समझते हैं और भौतिकता में पड़ने के बजाए सामाजिकता को प्राथमिकता देते हैं। ऐसे बच्चों में बचपन में सुनी ’दादी-नानी’ की कहानियों का असर कहीं न कहीं जरूर होता है। काम की व्यस्तता के कारण अपनी बेटी को रोज अपनी मां के पास छोड़ने वाली चिकित्सक शोभा दलाल ने बताया कि उन्हें अब अपनी बेटी में और आया के पास रहने वाले बच्चों के व्यवहार में खासा परिवर्तन दिखाई देता है।
डॉ. शोभा ने कहा यह सौ फीसदी सच है कि जो बच्चे अपने किसी भी ग्रैंड पेरेंट के पास रहते हैं, उनका व्यवहार उन बच्चों से कई गुना बेहतर होता है, जो आयाओं के पास पलते हैं। आया के पास रहने वाले बच्चे अपने अभिभावकों से दूर हो जाते हैं।
उन्होंने कहा ’कामकाजी मां अपने बच्चों को आया के पास या क्रैच में छोड़ती हैं। ऐसे बच्चों का उस दुनिया से भी संपर्क होता है, जिससे हम उनका संपर्क नहीं कराना चाहते। अभिभावकों को कोशिश करनी चाहिए कि वे अपने बच्चों को किसी भी ग्रैंड पेरेंट के पास रखें। इससे बच्चों में उपेक्षा की भावना भी नहीं आएगी और उनमें बेहतर संस्कार भी आएंगे। Source :hindi.samaylive.com
Varsha Varwandkar ,Career Counsellor http://www.aglakadam.com ,Raipur

when life is tough, be OBSERVAT:-) March 16, 2010

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First year students of MBBS were attending their first Anatomy class. They all gathered around the surgery table with a real dead dog.

The Professor started class by telling two important qualities as a Doctor.

The first is that NEVER BE DISGUSTED FOR ANYTHING ABOUT BODY,
e.g. he inserted his finger in dog’s mouth & on drawing back tasted it in his own mouth.

Then he said them to do the same.

The students hesitated for several minutes but eventually everyone inserted their fingers
in dog’s mouth & then tasted it.

When everyone finished, the Professor looked at them and said:

The most important 2nd quality is OBSERVATION,

I inserted my Middle finger but tasted the Index finger. Now learn to pay attention.

Moral: Life is tough but it’s a lot tougher when you are not paying attention

Kind Words for Parents – will you? March 5, 2010

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Friends sharing a story, author anonymous :

Kind words for Parents

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, “What is this?”

The Son replied “It is a crow”.

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What is this?”

The Son said “Father, I have just now told you “It’s a crow”.

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time,

What is this?”

At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”.

A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, “What is this?”

This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times ‘IT IS A CROW’. Are you not able to understand this?”

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-

“Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time h e asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child”.

While the little child asked him 23 times “What is this”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

MORAL :

If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents. From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me.

They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today”.

Say a prayer to God, “I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.

Ajit Varwandkar
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http://www.aglakadam.com
Dt. 5.03.2010

वैज्ञानिक अनुसंधान – हिन्दी के प्रयोग से भी दिमाग तेज़ होता है March 5, 2010

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विज्ञान पत्रिका करेंट साइंस में एक अनुसंधान का विवरण प्रकाशित हुआ है, राष्ट्रीय मस्तिष्क अनुसंधान केन्द्र द्वारा किए गए इस अनुसंधान का निष्कर्ष यह है कि अंग्रेज़ी की तुलना में हिन्दी भाषा के प्रयोग से मस्तिष्क अधिक चुस्त दुरुस्त रहता है।

अनुसंधान से संबन्धित मस्तिष्क विशेषज्ञों का कहना है कि अंग्रेज़ी बोलते समय दिमाग का सिर्फ बायाँ हिस्सा सक्रिय रहता है, जबकि हिंदी बोलते समय मस्तिष्क का दायाँ और बायाँ, दोनों हिस्से सक्रिय हो जाते हैं जिससे दिमाग़ी स्वास्थ्य तरोताज़ा रहता है। राष्ट्रीय मस्तिष्क अनुसंधान केन्द्र की भविष्य में अन्य भारतीय भाषाओं के प्रभाव पर भी अध्ययन करने की योजना है।

अनुसंधान से जुड़ी डॉ. नंदिनी सिंह के अनुसार, मस्तिष्क पर अंग्रेज़ी और हिन्दी भाषा के प्रभाव का असर जानने के लिए छात्रों के एक समूह को लेकर अनुसंधान किया गया। अध्ययन के पहले चरण में छात्रों से अंग्रेज़ी में जोर-जोर से बोलने को कहा गया और फिर हिन्दी में बात करने को कहा गया। इस समूची प्रक्रिया में दिमाग़ की हरकतों पर एमआरआई के ज़रिए नज़र रखी गई। परीक्षण से पता चला कि अंग्रेज़ी बोलते समय छात्रों के दिमाग का सिर्फ बायाँ हिस्सा सक्रिय था, जबकि हिन्दी बोलते समय दिमाग के दोनों हिस्से (बायाँ और दायाँ) सक्रिय हो उठे।

अनुसंधान दल के मुताबिक, ऐसा इसलिए होता है क्योंकि अंग्रेज़ी एक लाइन में सीधी पढ़ी जाने वाली भाषा है, जबकि हिन्दी शब्दों के ऊपर-नीचे और बाएँ-दाएँ लगी मात्राओं के कारण दिमाग को इसे पढ़ने में अधिक कसरत करनी पड़ती है, जिससे इसका दायाँ हिस्सा भी सक्रिय हो उठता है। इस अनुसंधान के परिणामों पर जाने माने मनोचिकित्सक डॉ. समीर पारेख ने कहा कि ऐसा संभव है। उनका कहना है कि हिंदी की जिस तरह की वर्णमाला है, उससे मस्तिष्क को कई फायदे हैं।

अभी तक हम हिन्दी के समर्थन में आर्थिक, सामाजिक, सांस्कृतिक एवं भावनात्मक तर्क देते थे, मगर इस अनुसंधान के बाद अब यह वैज्ञानिक पक्ष भी जुड़ गया है। आशा है इस तथ्य को जान लेने के बाद लोग हिन्दी प्रयोग की ओर अवश्य प्रवृत्त होंगे। अतः हम सबका यह कर्तव्य है कि इस समाचार का अधिक से अधिक प्रचार करें। Source :राष्ट्रीय मस्तिष्क अनुसंधान केन्द्र
Varsha Varwandkar , Career Counselor ,www.aglakadam.com ,Raipur

Examination Period Alerts March 4, 2010

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Resort to Innovation when in trouble March 3, 2010

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Recently I got this email, I do not know the source but thought of sharing it on the blog :

George Phillips , an elderly man, from Meridian , Mississippi , was
going up to bed, when his wife told him that he’d left the light on in
the garden shed, which she could see from the bedroom window. George opened the back door to go turn off the light, but saw that there were people in the shed stealing things.

    He phoned the police, who asked “Is someone in your house?”
    He said “No,” but some people are breaking into my garden shed and stealing from me.

  1. Then the police dispatcher said “All patrols are busy. You should
    lock your doors and an officer will be along when one is available.”

    George said, “Okay.”

    He hung up the phone and counted to 30. Then he phoned the police again.

    “Hello, I just called you a few seconds ago because there were people stealing things from my shed. Well, you don’t have to worry about them now because I just shot them.” and he hung up.

    Within five minutes, six Police Cars, a SWAT Team, a Helicopter, two Fire Trucks, a Paramedic, and an Ambulance showed up at the Phillips’
    residence, and caught the burglars red-handed.

    One of the Policemen said to George , “I thought you said that you’d shot them!”
    George said, “I thought you said there was nobody available!”

    MORAL :

    Innovation pays when emergency arises

    Ajit Varwandkar
    http://www.aglakadam.com
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ZIP your knowledge March 2, 2010

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There was a senior college professor who had made a lifetime’s study of the Assam tea herb & its qualities. He was an expert on tea & was known to be highly adamant & over proud on his knowledge in the domain.

Once he heard there was an old man living in Kohima who was a master on the tea herb qualities. People told him that the old man knew 100 times more than all the knowledge he had on tea herbs. So he made a special trip to Assam to see him. He found the master living in a small house on the outskirts of Kohima and they sat down to have tea together.

The professor was too anxious to know more about the tea herb & he immediately started talking about the tea ceremony, his study, all he knew about it and how he was looking forward to sharing his learning with the old man. The old man said nothing, but started to pour tea into the professor’s cup. While the professor talked, the old man continued to pour the tea, the cup filled and the old man kept pouring. The tea split down the sides of the cup in a stream onto the floor, yet the old man did not stop.

“Stop!” said the professor. “Are you crazy? You can’t pour any more tea in this cup. It’s already full.”

“I was just rehearsing,” replied the old man, “for the task of attempting to pass learning to a mind that is already full.” Friend first unlearn if you wish to learn more..

NOT JUST A STORY :

Friends this is not just a story but a truth in life. We all learn with our experiences in the society. Subconsciously many ifs & buts , dos & don’ts penetrate into our minds & we don’t even realize those. We get used to doing things, knowing situations the way we have been seeing it & even a bit of change makes us uncomfortable. We become adamant – ‘I know it all’ attitude creeps in our soul.

Lets understand it this way – if you are used to seeing a friend of yours in big & grown mustache since lifetime & suddenly you find him clean shaved… how would you react? Most likely your reaction would be more on the “Change Experience” & not on the Good or Bad part of it…. One is not PREPARED to accept the change, forget the past & welcome the new.

Look at the world around you & you will realize that every moment there is some value engineering happening some where. There are new ways to achieve the old results. The speed & processes are advancing day by day in almost every sphere. What was the best mode to succeed in examinations yesterday is not the same today.

The moral is that a huge gap is being created in every yesterday & every today. Please be ready & prepared to accept the ‘New’ from today. You will be able to do so only when you have an open mind. Welcome the ‘new”, zip & store the ‘old’ & process both to get better results.. that’s the mantra.

Ajit Varwandkar
Managing Director
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