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The Times of India CG, Carried this Career Kolaveri Di story January 10, 2012

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Tips from Kolaveri Di to secure your career

While the nation is effervescently rhyming with the beats of Tamil song “Why this Kolaveri di?” there is this monster called recession silently trying to make inroads into our happiness. The United Nations has set the scarecrow in action by projecting that the world economy is likely to further slowdown in 2012. UN’s World Economic Situation and Prospects 2012 report has cut the global growth forecast for next year to 2.6% from 4% in 2010.

Think of the word recession and the “dirty picture” of “job cuts” & “layoffs” gets displayed on our memory screen. Unemployment has become almost synonymous with recession. The country has managed to wriggle out of the 2008 subprime fiasco and I am sure we are not prepared to face yet another era of slowdown blues. The fact is that at an individual level one cannot do much to stop the impending slump as it is a global issue. What do you do, when you cannot change the circumstances? Change yourself, Isn’t it? Getting scared is not enough, one should switch on the career saver strategies at work. The million dollar question is “what changes in work behavior would help an individual to safeguard career?”.
Here I present some lessons drawn from the song Kolaveri di which suggests how to make our career recession proof.

Be Innovative & Creative :


Tough times never last but innovative people do. The innovative exposition of the song Kolaveri makes it recognisable. People of all ages might not like the song but none can stop it from getting registered in the brain cells. Likewise an innovative employee has multiple strengths. Such a person is often looked upon to by the management whenever there is a challenging situation. Be creative and keep delivering results. A crisis saver in the organization never gets a pink slip.

Be Different

You will agree that the song Kolaveri is absolutely different. Right from lyrics to video the song is incommensurable. When the business does not see a growth with and routine strategies go bust, companies are forced to be different. In the cluttered market place it is imperative to stand apart from the crowd. When recession strikes and job cuts are on card, the first to be sacked are the commoners, the one’s who are not distinguished. It is strongly advised to be identified as a person with exceptional skill sets. Being different in approach could be a career saver skill for you.

Be in rhythm :

“Why this Kolaveri di? is a song full of meaningless sentences ( if any) but still sounds interesting. Even the absurdity of words rhyme with the flow of the song and that’s the key reason behind its success. Come to the corporate world and there are times when logistics do not work out the way one desires. You might want to execute some strategy but the management might be planning something else. When times are not smooth never break the rhythm, try to ride the wave till you hit the shore. Your being in sync with the organizational tune will help you propitiate the management. Essence is to shed all inhibitions, learn to be different and still be in the organizational rhythm.

Be Fast :
It is said that the lyrics of Kolaveri Di got scribbled just in about 20 minutes. Even the song was released before the scheduled release date. The message drawn is “be fast, be first”. To insulate ones career from the shock of recession it is mandatory to be smart, swift and efficient. You are less likely to face the heat of slump if you are ahead of others in the organization. Being quick in your response will help you insinuate yourself into the managements perception. Admonition here is be quick but never be hasty in your actions.

Be involved :
It’s important to be involved in your work. Love your work. Be persistent even when things do not go your way. Generally employees preempt doom and prematurely start behaving desperate. Do not give in to peer grape wine. An organization is always keen to survive out of the tide. Job cut is one of the tools used to save cost but generally it is not the first to be used. There are many other interventions related to inventory and financial austerity which an organization deploys first.

Ajit Varwandkar
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Parents – be your child’s first career coach December 12, 2011

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Parents – be your child’s first career coach

My last week’s blog post “If your child is at the career cross road” evoked a sweet and sour response. I got many calls from readers telling why they intended to debate on some of the parenting views referred by me. Most of the responses came from the rich and the able. One gentleman said it’s about giving the best academic amenities to the child. One doctor opined that in today’s era parent’s cannot track the likes and personality of their child.  One PSU employee could not digest my statement that “excess concern about child’s career borders paranoia”. A school teacher called me to thank for the write-up, she suggested me to elaborate on the subject and hence this sequel.

For those who might have missed the last week’s write-up I recapitulate the essence.

When at career crossroads, a child is in an very sensitive stage of evolution because career decisions bear a significant impact on one’s life. Children ought to select the career which they are desperate for and not the one which gratifies parents unfulfilled ambitious. However in the process of guiding the child parents should ensure that they guard her individuality & self esteem. Irrelevant tinkering into their space will only display a lack of trust and surely backfire. Too much involvement as well as too less involvement in child’s career building process is harmful. Parents must play the role of a light house & a guide post. The light which they show should enable the child to take a career leap and also warn when there is danger.  The student should be encouraged to take informed career decisions for a prosperous future.

 

Parents are child’s first career coach and there are certain basic fundamental rules which a parent must adhere while career mentoring the child. The messages which a parent delivers can impact the educational and career choices of the student significantly. As per one survey, almost 80% of  high school students stated that they look upon to their parents when it comes to career selection guidance. Children are very smart at observation and they learn a lot from the work behavior of their parents and other adult role models.

 

Children who are particularly gifted & super talented present unique set of challenges. We come across parent’s who boast of their child being much advanced in terms of technology. The frequently orated sentence by parents is: “My son is so smart, give him the latest model of mobile handset and he will not take more than a few minutes to explore all the features and apps tucked into it.” This brings a pseudo sense of overconfidence into the parents. Career selection is different to dissection of a technical device. It is important for parent’s to understand that their children might sound hi-tech & advanced but when it comes to career decisions, they might fail to take mature steps.

 

Parental involvement should neither be too high nor too low.  Appropriate and inappropriate levels of involvement can either help or hinder the childs career takeoff. A balanced intervention can deliver positive attitude in the student which in turn will ensure better grades and effective decision-making skills.  Decisions related to career swing around the fulcrum of family idiosyncrasies and students personality. In situations of dilemma, some parents offer unconditional support to whatever career choice the ward might opt for.  This happens to be a well intentioned but a mal functioning strategy most of the time.  A child  might be capable of doing many type of jobs but in case she enters into a world irrelevant to her personality, there could be sinister consequences.   Ideally at every such stage parent should offer two or three well researched choices and then leave it up to the ward to identify the most suitable out of those.

 

The key to a successful career is being happy and fulfilled at the end of the day. This can be achieved when there is a proper match between child’s interests, values, skills and abilities with the professional demands of chosen career. Being potentially influential in the career development process of their children, parents should know to explore and use career information properly. They should take interest to identify the potentials and abilities in their children and bridge it appropriately.

 

Lessons for Excellence :

 

  • Always share closed ended solutions with your child, never leave them wondering in the wild when it comes to career decisions.
  • Parents should encourage their children to day-dream more and more about their fancied job and develop an inventory of career dreams.
  • Never forget to ask your child to have fun, in the zest to get a perfect student out of their child most of the parents forget the sports needs of their children.
  • A successful parents is open to learn new things and accept the everchanging career scope around.
  • Be open to discussions with your child, even if he has an eccentric career choice!

 

Ajit Varwandkar

 

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If your child is at the career cross road December 3, 2011

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If your child is at the career cross road

Recently I attended a marriage reception. These wedding parties sometimes give you the feel of getting stranded at a fuel station. You have to stand in the long queue near the stage and wait for your turn to greet the newlywed couple!  It was 9.00 pm in the late evening and I was somehow killing time in the queue. I was anxious to dispose-off the bouquet at the earliest.

I realized someone was throwing a smile at me. It was the parent of one of the school student who had once upon a time appeared for a career guidance & counseling session with me in my office. On that very spot, standing in the queue, the concerned parents threw rapid fire round of questions at me. Sir, I want to see my daughter as an engineer, can you tell us which all colleges outside our state should we target? How should she be preparing for the examinations? Some study tips from you will really be helpful for my daughter to excel in her career, so on and so forth…..

I could see the agony in the eyes of the child. After a while I could even register a sense of embarrassment on the face of the kid. Definitely she did not want to be bothered on career selection and study tips while in the party. Any child will not like this. Parent of this student were a bit too concerned about her career. Excess concern borders paranoia. 

Many parents complain about their child’s education & career consciousness in multiple variants. A few shared here: “My child does not share his interests with me.”, “I am ready to help him but he is never keen to take our support.”, “The child is introvert at home and extrovert in school.”, “He is so stubborn when it comes to career selection and does not give us a damn.”.  

If your child is at a career crossroad she is at a very sensitive career stage. It is really rightful for the parent to be bothered about their ward’s career. It is also of utmost importance to respect the child’s individuality and give her space. I have observed that in the process of imparting right career directions to their children many parents intrude into their creativity and independence. Such attempts either miss fires or worst back fires. Such illegitimate intrusions are harmful not just for the child and the parent but also for the society.

Too much involvement in child’s career building process is equally harmful as too less involvement is. Some parents make an open offer to their children. They say, “Go ahead and do whatever you want to, we will support you”.  This decision to respect the child’s decision is really good but not really fruitful. It is the moral responsibility of the parent to first suggest a few career options and then ask the child to make a career choice. It is vital to note at this stage that before making any suggestion, child should be thoroughly accessed on interest, aptitude and abilities. Careers matching with these parameters should then be suggested to the child. If required support of professional counselors should necessarily be sought.

As per one survey an average student in India spends not more than 4 hours throughout the school life planning for life’s career decisions. Majority of the students are simply not aware of the various career options available in the society!   On the contrary they spend more than 20 hours on selecting the bike / scooty and about 50 hours selecting a house.

Career decision has a big significance in one’s life. Students should be encouraged to think on the following questions while they are crossing the middle school : “What should I do in my life?”, “what is my career inspiration”,  “what are my most liked and most disliked career streams”, “How & when should I plan my career?” When the student starts addressing these questions, we can be sure that she has started climbing the ladder of career success.

I believe that every single student has the potential to become successful in life. Parents should play the role of a light house & a guide post. They should shower enough light for the child to take a leap and also warn when there is danger.  Their support & guidance should enable the student to take informed career decisions & prepare well for future.

LESSONS FOR EXCELLENCE :

  • Failing to plan for child’s career is nothing but planning to see your child fail in her career.
  • In the process of guiding your child please ensure that you guard her self esteem. Irrelevant tinkering into her aspiration will only make her restless, insecure and insincere.
  • It is important for the parent to be self aware about career choices and be confidant about happenings in life, only then the child will inculcate these attributes.
  • Over indulgence by parent into child’s choices might display lack of trust. Beware.
  • Law of career success states that the child should select the career which she is desperate for and not the one which her parents were ambitious for at some point of time.

 

By : Ajit Varwandkar

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When opportunities knock, don’t be sleeping on the couch November 26, 2011

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  When opportunities knock, don’t be sleeping on the couch

Recently news about a reputed airline company cancelling flights occupied the media headline space prominently. This aero business company suddenly realized that it was in a horrendous loss of more than Rs. 1000 crore. The high-profile chief executive of the company approached the government heads requesting bailout! It was as if the airline was unaware of the impending crisis! …….

 

…………….  Complete write-up in my forthcoming book…. for announcement on the book title and launch, pl keep visiting www.aglakadam.com  ………………………………………  Ajit Varwandkar

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Birth of an Unemployable Engineer July 16, 2011

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Admission session is back on cards. Various academic institutes across India are into the refilling mode. Recently we had the news from Shri Ram College of Commerce, New Delhi about the mind shattering 100% cut-off marks for admission. The demand supply imbalance of seats versus prospective students has surfaced yet again. Engineering has traditionally been the most preferred & “rest assured” choice of professional career for students and parent’s alike. Getting an Engineering degree is like a dream achieved. However the story post engineering is not all that encouraging these days. We have seen a large mass of unemployed engineering students struggling hard, unsuccessfully, to get into employment.

Time and again we get to see those enticing advertisements from various colleges imparting professional education. We also come to understand that India is on the path of exponential industrial growth & that industry would be requiring thousands and lacks of qualified manpower in years to come. A very important question which one thinks of is “In spite of seemingly win-win scenario for students and industry both, why is there a situation where thousands of unemployed engineers flock on the roads every year? There has to be some remarkably important phenomenon responsible to catalyze this situation. To my understanding the main reason behind this situation is that some of the institutions are giving birth to unemployable engineers. The obvious blame flame targets the mushrooming of engineering institutes, short sighted policies, lack of vision etc. On the contrary I think there is one more factor responsible for this imbalance. You would agree with me that it is the input which justifies the output. We need to take a serious look into the kind of students intake today’s institutes of excellence are forced to acquire. A few of real life experiences will elucidate my views in the next paragraph.

A parent visited us last week and wanted career counseling for their child. Father is a reputed builder and desperately wanted his son to join his business. Sir please guide my son to become a Civil Engineer. It was a close ended request. Father had not given any alternates to his son. On the first place I had doubts if the young lad even had an aptitude for engineering, leave aside civil engineering. The kid confessed, he wanted to become a stage artist. In spite of all the guidance and counseling efforts, the psychometric assessments et al, I know the boy will have to digest the qualification of Civil Engineering.

In yet another real life experience a girl child spoils her career because her parent’s are too liberal. They not only assured her to give her the financial support to visit a career counselor and get the most professional advise but also to arrange for the best education infrastructure for her. “Do what you want to & we shall support you financially” goes their words. The girl got all the more confused. All choices and no signboards from parent! Which way should I go?

Choices are the hinges of destiny, said Pythagorus. Surely so and very true also. More so when one is on cross roads of career and the decision taken today will decide the direction of the future life. With thousands and lacs of engineering seats available in India getting admission to an Engineering College is not much an issue. Any institute is as good or as bad as its faculty, campus placements and students provided the Institute is statutorily accredited and recognized.

Friends, students & parents let me share a secret with you. “Just like all medicines are helpful to cure some or the other illness but this happens only when the doctor reads the symptoms rightly and prescribe the right medicine, likewise all Engineering Branches lead to success – what is required is to have the right match.” To select the right branch is a very serious decision. This shall define the course of your career. In the process of making this decision students get strongly influenced by parents, peers and people in general. The opinion of every person you meet contributes in creating thought ripples. In the field of engineering there are immense opportunities for those with the right attitude, skills. The need is to choose the right branch as per the interest and aptitude parameter of ones personality. Opportunities will definitely follow those students who select the right academic slot for themselves. Even in times of recent recession, exciting opportunities were available for technically qualified & EMPLOYABLE manpower.

Making a BRANCH SELECTION is all the more tough when the choices are more. Before taking the right decision students should necessarily meet and discuss with at least two on job working engineers from every stream of engineering and get their opinions about the particular branch. Selecting a branch of engineering also depends on the students career planning. It is must that students should be able to evaluate their inherent personality traits and match it against those which may be the mandatory determinants for any particular branch of engineering. Not all branches of engineering may be suitable to every student. For example if you have a extremely introvert personality and you desire to become a civil engineer or get into construction activities in your life, it may not be really the right decision for you since civil engineering on field ( mostly) requires the traits of extrovert personality.

Every engineering field has its own set of challenges and opportunities. The student should first logically establish the best preferred stream of engineering by getting a. professional psychometric consultation. Having established the best branches the student should introspect and reflect about his/ her aptitude, interest and personality, the strength areas and match it with the career goal.  A lot of material is available on the internet which can be surfed to get a glimpse into the engineering branch selection subject. Its however wise & fruitful to consult seniors in the industry, teachers & placement managers, counselors & education coaches before jumping on to the final decision.

LESSONS FOR EXCELLENCE :

1. All branches of engineering have the potential to deliver a great future to the student.

2. More than selection of the institute it is the selection of the right branch which is more critical.

3. Before finalizing on any institute a student should necessarily be satisfied with the institutes accreditation status. You have all the rights to ask for these details.

4. Understand & analyse your aptitude, interest & skills and use this report to select the right branch of engineering.

5. It pays to discuss with senior / just pass-out students & relevant working professionals in the industry to get more insight about the institute and the various streams of education in engineering.

Ajit Varwandkar

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4,90,000 parent’s failed in IIT ! May 28, 2011

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4,90,000 parent’s failed in IIT !

“Sir, my son is average in studies, he is not an extra ordinary student. Can you please help us suggest him the right career?” Working as a career counselor we come across such statements from accompanying parent’s more often than less. It is really heartening to see parents de-motivating their ward when it is their responsibility to be the source of inspiration for them. Most of the times this happens unintentionally but it surely devaluates the self esteem of the child.

IIT Jee results are out. Almost five lac students participated in this engineering race and less than ten thousand students qualified to get admission into India’s best engineering institutes. As per statistics out of every 200 student only 1 got to enter the prestigious institutes! By all means this is a very tough competition. I read in newspaper that son of a vegetable vendor qualified for IIT Jee in Chhattisgarh. In Bangalore a student who works part time as a bartender in a wine shop got through in the examination. These are those special cases where the hard work and preparation got an opportunity to meet success.

Almost every school in India had a list of few students qualifying in the tests. For the school authorities and management the success of their students in similar examinations becomes a matter of pride and fuel for their growth & prosperity in future. Appreciation goes only to those who get the winning certificate. Students who qualify in the entrance examination get a lot of accolades. It’s like a festival of congratulations where the whole world wants to hug the winners. The school teachers, the coaching institutes, parents, friends and seniors – all clamor around the winners to claim their share of the credit in making the student a success. Banners, Posters and Media play a prominent role in glamorizing the success of these successful students. 

I sit back to think about the state of mind of the majority.  When the demand supply is lopsided & there is a rush to get the best, majority never wins. In any such competitive examination the majority lies with those who could not cross the barrier. What about the balance nine lakh ninety thousand students? Are they good for nothing? Are they not worth making a great career for themselves? Had there been 1000 more seats available in the education system, may be those borderline thousand students would also have got an opportunity to celebrate success.  Tragedy happens when many parent’s forget that these examinations are just a means of eliminating applicants in order to offer admission to selected students in their institutes. Parent’s forget the fact that these examinations are not to identify how dumb or how intelligent their ward is.

Father of a meritorious student informed me that his daughter did not qualify for JEE. This was a rude shock for the school, the teacher & for the friends. While the father was demonstrating absolute cool de-mean-our I could see dejection on the face of the kid. Sometimes there are no answers to questions in life. May be the child did not fill up the answer sheet properly, may be the answer sheet got mixed up, maybe she did not write the roll number correctly or maybe she did not understand the negative marking pattern of the examinations. Something surely went wrong somewhere.  It was time for the family and friends to accept the result and move ahead. What the father further said was heart stimulating “There is nothing to be shocked about failures in life. I do not take this as a heart break. My daughter has many other options for success and we are going party today!”  I recalled the proverb “Failure is nothing but a delayed success!”

Not all children are lucky to have so considerate & thoughtful parent.  It is the responsibility of biological parents to evolve into matured parent. Examinations like IIT JEE or any other engineering / medical examinations actually put the parent of contesting students to test. It is their natural anxiety to ensure that they want their ward to get the best. Many parent sacrifice their happiness and wealth to ensure that the child gets the best academic infrastructure.  I know of a father who sold of his only property to get his son educated at one of the best coaching institute in Rajasthan last season. In spite of his inputs his son did not qualify. As a result the whole family got mentally derailed and went into psychological disorder.  There are many such examples in the country. Out of the 4,90,000 families of students who did not qualify for IIT JEE this year, I am sure majority won’t be prepared to take the negative results. Dejections in life should as well be taken with dignity. Rejection does not mean the end of life, it only means there is an area of improvement.

Recently in a leading national daily there was a news item which said that a few students from IIM Ahemdabad and Bangalore were asked to tell what part of their childhood they would like to change given they had such an opportunity. A few students cried and said they wanted to become something else in their career and definitely not a management graduate! Their parent’s coerced them into the management education! One family came to us for guidance & psychometric career assessment. They were taken aback & broken down when we informed that their child has an aptitude into fine arts. Engineering or medical might not be the most apt career for the kid. The father was a senior PSU officer and desperately wanted to father an engineering student. Reason being he missed the engineering race in his career trajectory. In most of the family’s parent inflict their children with their unfulfilled career desires. A father – mother combine can become the best counselor for the child. They should properly access the strength areas of the child and direct the child into similar directions.

My dear parent’s, it’s not your children alone who face the examinations, it is you who have to actually pass or fail. It’s time to take responsibility and show reasonable upbringing ability at home.  It is vital for today’s parent to create the right atmosphere at home. It is their responsibility to prepare children to take on the challenges & examinations in life. Majority of the parent’s will have to learn to hold their anxiety and control their emotions. Do not just scold your child for his / her not performing upto expectations. Show them the varied options for the future and appraise them on the opportunities for improvement. If you feel you are not really competent to do this, hire professional services but please do not mess up with the mindset of your child. Believe me your kid takes your words very seriously. Your words can make him / her a leader or a laggard. In private or in public, always use positive adjectives for your children. You may not see immediate results of positive affirmations but negative words will surely kill the motivation instantly.

Lessons for Excellence :

  1. Results of any academic examination should never be treated as the ultimate result. The menu card in the restaurant of Life will have much more to offer beyond these results!
  2. Children should always have fallback options in place. If career plan A does not work, Plan B might! In-fact one should have a career plan C also in place.   
  3. Parent’s please note: your words and actions are being watched by your children. Please demonstrate absolute maturity when addressing the child’s performance ( or non performance ) in public or at home.
  4. Parent’s – never push your unfulfilled career aspirations down the throat of your child. Let her personality evolve in tune with her strengths.
  5. Finally, if the child fails in any examination   – he/she should not be blamed alone for it. Parent, School & society should take the collective responsibility.

 

Ajit Varwandkar

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Master-mind, Master the Mind March 28, 2011

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Dear reader, here is a set of 16 close ended questions. Please answer these questions honestly in either YES or NO ……

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Well, how many YES did you get? In case you got more than 8 YES of the 16 questions above, chances are that your attention is hijacked! By attention hijack I mean the lack of general concentration in life. When this happens one is not able to focus on one thing at a time. This inability to focus & master the mind adversely affects your work, your relationships, study and almost everything that you do in life.

Unable to master the mind is one of the widest spread challenge to mankind today.

In our venture to achieve many goals simultaneously we resort to multitasking in almost every field of life. While driving a car we discuss and think, while attending a telephone call we write an email and also attend a guest, while cooking in the kitchen we simultaneously get into multiple domestic activities!

Ajit Varwandkar
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Are you in a hurry for success? March 6, 2011

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Cricket is one of the most loved sport in India. The one-and-a-half-month-long World Cup Fever 2011 is gaining momentum now. When the Indian team is on the ground all Indian’s want India to win, when there are any other teams playing it does not matter
who wins, game is important. This is true for majority of Indian viewers and I think it would be the similar feeling for any individual from any other nationality.

…………………..  Complete write-up in my forthcoming book…. for announcement on the book title and launch, pl keep visiting www.aglakadam.com  ……………………………………… 

Ajit Varwandkar
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Papa Don’t Preach February 19, 2011

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If there was a stress barometer to read family stress, the mercury would have shot up very high these days because a lot of examination borne stress is showing in families. Where there are children, there ought to be schools and where there are schools, examinations are must! Come March – April and most of the schools in India shall be conducting the final / yearly evaluation examinations.

Most of the students are worried about the exams. They go through phases of sleepless nights or peace less sleep. They don’t feel like eating well and constantly keep feeling irritable. Irony is that their parent as well experiences almost similar symptoms. To add to the impact they are emotionally stressed too! Students are worried because they have to “face” the examinations and their parents are bothered about their performance.

Students are the only ones who actually are aware on their level of preparations for the examinations. Some students may have well prepared and would be in the final lap of revision while many others would not be so lucky! But the common factor for both the category of students, those who are prepared for examinations and those not prepared for exams, is that “stress” attacks all of them!

These are the days when students spend most of the time at home preparing for their next test. Parents are not far behind, I have seen many parents take leave from their office and sit along with their children while he/she is studying. Some of the parents care too much for their children and continuously keep following it up with them for completion of course curriculum. Some such parent even extend support to their children in finishing up with their subject practical’s or assignments. Parents would getup early morning along with the children to help them in studies and won’t part till they see off them the into the examination hall!

While examination season is actually the time when the kid requires absolutely stress free atmosphere, the over indulgence of parent sometimes makes the situation further complicated. The parent has all good intentions to support their children but generally what evolves out of their sudden involvement is additional stress and irritation to the children.
“All study and no play makes Jack a dull guy” – we tend to forget this knowingly. While the examination days when the student needs to concentrates better on the learning process they are not allowed to play or turn on the music. In the guise of studies there is an atmosphere of gloom & panic at home. Students are not exposed to such restrictions, extra attention and it finally distracts them.

Competition is tough and peer pressure is already very high for the student; under such situation the otherwise dormant parent makes a mistake to suddenly start over discussing the syllabus with their children. Parent does not realize that their emotional outburst invariably affect their children directly. The child is not really prepared to take on the fresh set of expectations. With so much of hi definition emotions & complex stress at home, every individual in the house needs to support the examinee by taking proper care of his or her own emotions on their own. Child’s emotional need should be allocated the highest priority and parents should not allow their emotional state to disturb their child’s routine. When a parent gets into the trap of emotional examination stress, the child is likely to experience one or more of the following symptoms: disappointment & lack of confidence, apathy to study & appear for examinations, unable to learn because of memory lapse, heath disorders like headache, fever, irritable bowl, nervousness & temptation to end life etc.

Parents I suggest you to please relax & not over react at this juncture when the student is on the verge of examinations. Behave very normal and let the child follow the normal course of his day routine. Be like a genie & a guide post for your student. My prescription is be affectionate and never make the child uncomfortable with over-attention. A dose of zappi ( hug ) an hour would work wonders.

As the final countdown for the examinations starts for the students here are a few more suggestions for the parents to de-stress their children :
• Try to have least one meal with the family and spend some light moments with children.
• If the student does not perform well in one test allow him to forget about it and plan for the next paper. Ruminating over the failure is never fruitful.
• Apart from examinations, discuss about other interests and hobbies of your child. This will help him / her to relax.
• Do not set fresh examination rules for your child, examination timetable should be made well in advance. “Revision timetable” should be decided only by the student. However the parent could always assist the child in coming up with a routine, if the child so desires.
• Take care of the child’s nutrition & health.
• Sometimes children are not able to cope up with their social network (friends and internet sites), you can help the student to shield these pressures.
• Be a good listener, never react without understanding the complete story from your child. It may just be that the child is reacting out of some situation but actually addressing a different stress.
• Motivate the child, he/she may not show but could be disheartened within. Help your child with positive thoughts.
• Last but not the least, Parent should consult a counselor if the child is experiencing alarming stress or behaving abnormally.

Parenting is a very responsible art. Parenting decision should be made in mutual consultation by mother and father. As a parent you are best positioned to understand the aptitude and ability of your child. Accordingly ensure that the child goes through the process of examination freely and smoothly. My dear parents, do not just preach but also teach your child to be positive about examinations because this exam is not the end of the journey. Life is much more beyond these examinations.

Ajit Varwandkar
http://www.aglakadam.com
Email : info@fsindia.in

सीबीएसई : एप्टीट्यूड टेस्ट जनवरी में September 27, 2010

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स्टूडेंट्स के लिए ‘ एप्टीट्यूड टेस्ट ‘ कंडक्ट करने का फैसला किया है। टेस्ट में अब्जेक्टिव टाइप क्वेश्चन होंगे और इस टेस्ट को शुरू करने का मकसद स्टूडेंट्स की मेंटल एबिलिटी को परखना है। जिस तरह से प्रतियोगी परीक्षाएं होती हैं , उसी तर्ज पर एप्टीट्यूड टेस्ट में क्वेश्चन आएंगे। सीबीएसई चेयरमैन विनीत जोशी ने एनबीटी को बताया कि यह टेस्ट जनवरी 2011 में होगा। इस टेस्ट के जरिए स्टूडेंट्स व पैरंट्स को 11 वीं क्लास में स्ट्रीम चुनने में भी मदद मिलेगी। 10 वीं के बाद स्कूलों और स्टूडेंट्स को यह समस्या रहती है कि किस स्ट्रीम को चुने लेकिन एप्टीट्यूड टेस्ट के जरिए यह प्रोसेस आसान हो सकता है।

सीबीएसई चेयरमैन का कहना है कि वैसे तो यह टेस्ट ऑप्शनल रखा गया है , जो स्टूडेंट्स चाहेंगे , उनके लिए ही टेस्ट कंडक्ट होगा लेकिन इस टेस्ट में ज्यादा से ज्यादा स्टूडेंट्स के शामिल होने की उम्मीद है। जोशी ने बताया कि टेस्ट स्कूल में ही होगा और एक ही दिन और एक ही समय पर होगा। बोर्ड क्वेश्चन पेपर की बुकलेट स्कूलों को भेज देगा। बोर्ड ने स्कूलों से स्टूडेंट्स की लिस्ट भी मांगी है ताकि क्वेश्चन पेपर की बुकलेट तैयार की जा सकें। एक – दो दिन में बोर्ड इस टेस्ट को लेकर सर्कुलर भी जारी करने वाला है।

उन्होंने बताया कि बोर्ड ने 10 वीं क्लास के स्टूडेंट्स के लिए कन्टिन्यूअस एंड कॉम्प्रीहेंसिव इवैल्यूशन ( सीसीई ) स्कीम लागू की है और इस स्कीम में स्टूडेंट्स को तरह – तरह की एक्टिवटी में भाग लेने को प्रेरित किया जाता है। एप्टीट्यूड टेस्ट के जरिए यह पता चल सकेगा कि स्टूडेंट्स की नॉलेज कितनी है और उसका कौशल किस तरह का है ? टेस्ट में शामिल होने वाले स्टूडेंट्स को बोर्ड की ओर से सर्टिफिकेट भी मिलेगा।

न्यू स्टेट अकादमी , पीतमपुरा की प्रिंसिपल डॉ . संगीता भाटिया का कहना है कि एप्टीट्यूड टेस्ट में कंटेंट बेस्ड नहीं होगा बल्कि इसमें ऐसे क्वेश्चन होंगे , जिन्हें वे स्टूडेंट्स आसानी से हल कर सकेंगे , जिन्होंने अपने सब्जेक्ट को समझा हैै। करियर ऑप्शन के लिहाज से भी इस तरह के टेस्ट फायदेमंद हैं। अगर एप्टीट्यूड टेस्ट में साइंस , मैथ्स , न्यूमैरिकल्स , सोशल साइंस हर स्ट्रीम से क्वेश्चन होंगे।

डॉ . भाटिया ने बताया कि बोर्ड ने करीब 100 स्कूलों में टेस्ट को लेकर सैंपल सर्वे भी कराया था और स्टूडेंट्स इस टेस्ट को लेकर उत्साहित नजर आए। एयरफोर्स बाल भारती स्कूल , लोदी रोड के प्रिंसिपल आनंद स्वरूप का कहना है कि बोर्ड की नई स्कीम में प्रफिशन्सी टेस्ट के अलावा अब एप्टीट्यूड टेस्ट शुरू करने का फैसला आने वाले समय में काफी फायदेमंद साबित होगा।

गौरतलब है कि बोर्ड अगले साल मई – जून में ऑप्शनल प्रफिशन्सी टेस्ट भी कंडक्ट शुरू करने जा रहा है और यह टेस्ट सभी पांच सब्जेक्ट इंग्लिश , हिंदी , सोशल साइंस , मैथ्स और साइंस के लिए होगा। इसमें 9 वीं व 10 वीं के सिलेबस से जुड़े और आसान से लेकर मुश्किल हर तरह के सवाल होंगे।

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Mrs Varsha Varwandkar,Career Psychologist ,www.aglakadam.com ,Raipur