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You cannot re-listen the spoken words February 15, 2012

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You cannot re-listen the spoken words

A police officer in a city stopped a motorcyclist who was speeding down the cricket stadium. “But sir,” the motorist begged, “I can explain the reason why I was driving fast…” “Will you please be silent?,” snapped the police officer. “I’m going to put you behind the bar until the commissioner is in here at the police station.” “But sir, I only wanted to say that …,” rebuffed the police man : “dear I asked you to keep mum! You’re going to jail and that’s for sure!”  

A few hours later the police officer looked into the innocent eyes of the prisoner and said, “Did you know there is a marriage hall on the way where you were driving so fast? There were children playing near the hall and with your speed you might have surely hurt someone.” The lamenting man replied from behind the iron grill, “Yup, I know it the best, actually I’m the groom!”

Good listeners always give others a chance to speak. They allow the communication to happen.  A good listener has a huge amount of patience. We all might have observed at one time or the other that people tend not to have the patience to listen till the end. You start telling some story and chances are that half way through someone might barge into the communication stating he also experienced something similar once upon a time and start narrating that experience. Not listening is one of the biggest barrier to communication. Anger is the first enemy of good listening while impatience is the second.  Many of life’s failures and tragedies happen because we cease to listen.

Here is one more example. Ramesh’s boss, was known to be a hard task master in office. Once he was instructing his subordinate on some business issue. Ramesh actually had more updates about the subject matter and hence tried to interrupt his boss with that information but was harshly rubbished by him. In spite of his best intervention efforts the facts could not be communicated to his boss. Ramesh was compelled to work as per the imperfect directions of his boss. Eventually the strategy proposed by his boss failed and the plan backfired. The company had to incur loss. A post loss repent does never correct the past. Unfortunately there is no undo command for not listening!  

Those who can listen and comprehend can only be successful in life.  Listening is different to hearing. You ‘hear’ sound which might not make any sense to you. You hear noise, you listen words. Noise might not have any sense while words have the power to move the world! Listening is an art inherited by the wise. It is one of the most primitive arts learned by mankind. It helps individual to connect with other people and the world. When you listen properly you pay attention.

Listening is also about caring. Children grow up and parents grow older, what does an old parent need from its progeny?  A patient listening can many a times ease of high levels of accumulated stress.  You need to be a very good listener if you wish to become a good parent, a good spouse, a good teacher, a good boss or a spiritual person. Listening breeds result when caring follows it because you care only when you empathise with the other person. You can empathize only when you listen properly.

Think of a seriously ill patient lying on the bed by your side. What do you think the patient needs the most? Nothing but an attentive listening is desired by the patient. Just try to recall what did you share with your friend when the friend lost a near and dear one? The friend was upset and very sad, actually crying a lot. At such times and caring ear is what maximum can be offered by any human being.

You cannot re-listen the spoken words, hence it is better to listen it right the first time. When you pay attention to what is being said you actually give the most precious reward to the speaker.  Sometimes inspite of having listened properly you do not get the right meaning of the words. On such occasions one should request for elucidation. You are listening only when your heart is in synchronization with the rhythm pouring in from the ear.

Are you listening?

 Lessons for Excellence :

  • Learn to listen, not just hear or else you might miss out on the essence of life.
  • Always give full opportunity to the other person to speak out before you take a decision.
  • Listening properly is a mandatory ingredient for being successful.
  • Those who do not listen thoroughly, repent later.
  • Each one of us should learn to be a good listener.

Ajit Varwandkar

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These children are brand ambassadors of strength November 12, 2011

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These children are brand ambassadors of strength

Our state Chhattisgarh celebrated its eleventh state formation day by organizing a state level fest in Raipur called Rajyotsav-2011. In between 1st Nov’2011 and  5th Nov’2011 people from all across the state gathered in huge numbers to this expo. It was an influx of almost one lack footfalls each day.

Luck struck fair for me and I got to make my presence usefully registered on this occasion. Higher Education Department of the State Government of Chhattisgarh organized a unique reality show named as “Nano Career Guidance- ON THE SPOT”. I was given the responsibility to counsel students and extend guidance in this show. In the course of these five days more than 600 students visited us. Apparently the students who visited had an inconspicuous personality but still each one of them carried a unique history. When I spoke to the students at length I understood more about life. Some students had some characteristics so special about them that one could draw a heavy dose of inspiration out if it. I present here the real life stories of a few such students.

The first story is of Dhanesh Sahu who belongs to a small village near Raigarh. He scored 87% marks in class XIIth examination. His father is a cycle rickshaw puller and mother works as a house maid. He has two sisters. Father is a drunkard and has articulated a hell in their daily life out of his bad habit. Dhanesh had appeared for pre engineering entrance and qualified to join a reputed engineering college. However he consciously decided not to take admission into engineering because his financial & family situations did not support his education. He knows he will not have enough time and money to get an engineering degree from a full-time course college.

The most appreciable part of Dhanesh’s story is that his dream & desire to become an engineer is intact with him in spite of acute constraints in life. According to him “lack of motivation” is the first commuter which starts running along with an individual as soon as he steps on the lane of problems in life. Always stand directly under the “sun rays of motivation” so that the “shadow of second thoughts” is never seen. He has already acquired the qualification of ITI and has started working with an engineering organization as a machinist. I will work for two years, earn some money for myself and then attempt to become a diploma engineer. He says “When I get enough money to sustain myself I will surely study to become an engineer in life!”

Second story to share is that of Ramashankar. With a B.Com degree in hand Ramashankar is currently pursuing his management course. He has the responsibility to support his family. Lack of financial stability compels him to earn money simultaneously along with his education. He lost his father when he was a small kid and has been into some or the other kind of occupation since those days. What distinguishes him from others is the fact that he is also working as a waiter in one of the hotels in Chhattisgarh. He’s highly inspired by Amitabh Bachchan and refuses to accept tip from his customer’s who visit the restaurant, a la Vijay in the bollywood movie “Deewar”, ‘fenke hue paise mai aaj bhi nahi leta’ ( I do not accept the fee amount,  if a person throws maney towards me ). In his words, “My only challenge is the situation when I have to serve food to my colleagues as a waiter in the restaurant. However I have no complaints, my duty is to make every situation in my stride!”

Third story is of a blind girl. She lives in one of the blind girls hostel in the city. I was exhilarated to know that this girl was pursuing her Masters in Arts. It had been a tough journey for her to reach this stage in her academic career and this was not the end of road for her. She visited us at the career guidance fare to know about the future prospects of career growth for her. Her blindness, so far, has never interfered in her aspirations. The girl says she is happy in her life and her face radiates the pleasantness. Meeting her reminds me of the miraculous achievements of Helen Keller, in her words :

They took away what should have been my eyes    
(But I remembered Milton’s Paradise).

They took away what should have been my ears,    
(Beethoven came and wiped away my tears).

They took away what should have been my tongue,            
            (But I had talked with God when I was young).

He would not let them take away my soul –  
Possessing that, I still possess the whole.

Friends there are many such children around us who have demonstrated extraordinary courage and commitment in order to make life worth living. These are the hero’s who have defeated deprivation. Such children are surely the brand ambassadors of strength and will power. My salute to them.

LESSONS FOR EXCELLENCE :

  • Success and Failure have no direct relation with ones financial background.
  • Winners focus on the possibilities and not on the limitations.
  • Champion is determined by dreams, not excuses.
  • If you choose to stay motivated in life, one morning you will get up happier.
  • If you have the necessary will, you will surely find the rightful way.

(PS. I have changed the names of children in the stories to respect their individuality)

Ajit Varwandkar

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Never write-off anyone in life November 5, 2011

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Never write-off anyone in life

I have been a keen cricket enthusiast right from my school days.  It’s an all together different fact that I was never considered as a useful cricket player by my friends. In those day’s children who were not considered good either at batting or at bowling but still insisted to play along with others on the ground were asked to stand behind the stumps or at short mid on or at third man position. When the number of players were more than 11 I had to sit in the pavilion and do the score counting job. As such most of the times I used to play as a wicket keeper and never bothered about the partial treatment being given to me.  I loved the game and used to enjoy it a lot.

I share an incidence which turned around my image as a cricketer in my locality.

…………………..  Complete write-up in my forthcoming book…. for announcement on the book title and launch, pl keep visiting www.aglakadam.com  ……………………………………… 

Failure should be considered as a relearning detour.

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Beware, your mood may mislead you September 19, 2011

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Day 1, evening.

Shalin come fast, we have to go for the party. No Mumma, I am not feeling well today, I may not go along. Asked the mother : “But why?” The reply “am not sure, why so Mumma, but I don’t want to study either”.

Day 2, morning.

Shalin rushes out of the house and shouts at his mother in a jubilant tone “Bye Mom, I have a busy day today, will come back in the evening, take care and be happy”.

Just a matter of 12 hours and there is 180 degree shift in Shalin’s mood. Many a times in life we come across a static state of mind.  The mind stops to work and body does not respond to our feelings. This mostly happens post trauma. In the common slang we coin it as: “I am feeling sick” or “I don’t know why but I am feeling down.” In the guise of a down mood we shun our responsibilities. These are those syndromes which we need to guard against. We can dodge our responsibilities but we cannot dodge the consequences.

Mood kills maturity. Bad mood spells doom.

…………………..  Complete write-up in my forthcoming book…. for announcement on the book title and launch, pl keep visiting www.aglakadam.com  ……………………………………… 

 

Be a good pilot, learn to smoothly sail your flight even in the turbulence of your mood.

Ajit Varwandkar

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How can I win from here? September 10, 2011

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I met two school students recently. In spite of there being certain stark similarities between both, they  were performing differently in their examinations. Both belonged to similar socio-economic family background and were from the same village. Incidentally both went down with a long drawn viral fever just before the examination. It took time for them to get well and only a few days before the examinations they could get back to studies.

I happened to ask both the students about how they plan to prepare for the test. Here are their replies: The first student said “Not  a problem, I shall somehow try to  get passing marks”. This student had never been the topper and had never tasted success. He did not have any aspirations to be the best in his class. He was satisfied with bare minimum numbers and never targeted high. His plan was just to maintain his status quo. On the other hand the second student replied “It would be tough, but I shall work hard to keep up my place in the top three”! This student was a topper all through and always aspired to be on the merit list. Just to pass, anyhow could not be his aspiration even in the toughest situation.

It matters where your thoughts extrapolate from! While one student was targeting just to manage and somehow pass in the examination the other was targeting to be at the top. It is the quality of target that you maintain at every stage in the process of your journey which matters. The result should not surprise you: the student who had the target to just pass actually failed while the other student topped in the examination.

Many of us start the year with very high targets and rich ambitions. However with the passing months most of us tend to miss on our targets. The natural reaction is to lose will and feel hopeless. It’s easy to feel hopeless but difficult to keep up the hope against pressure. It’s not tough to surrender but it is an arduous task to keep the spirits high when under struggle. As they say it’s not the size of the dog in the fight but the size of the fight in the dog which makes it win. If you are not up to the mark today never should you do this mistake to assume that you will not be so tomorrow.  Tomorrow is always a new day and it comes with new promises. Let not the shadows of past failures darken your future.  Keep up the mental demeanor. Redirect your adrenalin to recharge your will power and not the blood pressure.

Everything in life has a beautiful end, if it’s not beautiful enough it’s not yet the end! Once you have started off with your mission, its utmost important how you finish. Thomas Alwa Edison, while he was inventing the bulb, could have very easily surrendered when he failed in his second or in the ninety ninth attempts. However he had the lamp of hope glowing till he succeeded in achieving his goal. On the way we might fall occasionally and this is but natural. In such low moments winners count the number of times they get up and get going while the losers would count the number of times they stumbled.

It’s must to continue giving your best performance till the end. Falling down should be considered as recharge coupon and the “will power balance” should get the necessary top-up with every setback. A battle is lost not when the enemy wins but when the other side gives-up and thinks he cannot fight any more. Sachin Tendulkar and Shane Warn have been typically known for their never lose approach while playing on the field. Whatever may be the statistics on the scoreboard and irrespective of the field equations in the game, they prefer to ask their colleagues “How can we win from here”. Situations when the other team felt complacent about their victory these leaders were actually determined to turnaround the game. This approach has made their team win many games which they would have otherwise lost. Especially in the game of football and hockey you learn to keep up the winning will till the last-minute in the game. Many a match winning goals in international tournaments were shot just while the referee would have blown the finish whistle! It’s vital to be in the game till you finish strong.

Lessons for Excellence :

  • Past is a history and future is a mystery. It’s mandatory to execute in the present moment, that’s the real asset.
  • Hope is the only dependable weapon for a warrior who desires to win. Keeping the ultimate will to win will surely show you the well deserved victory in life.
  • In the journey of life defeat should only be taken as a mini stoppage and not as the destination.
  • At the end of the day it’s ones attitude, while facing adversity which defines the fate. It pays to manage and keep on the winning attitude.
  • “How can I win from here” could be used as a sure formula for success. Whenever you are under challenging situations, ask yourself ( at least once) : How can I win from here? I am sure you will get your answer.

 

Ajit Varwandkar

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The holy officer and the scientist September 3, 2011

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(This blog is based on the story of a boy from a small village  who ventured out to make a mark in the world. Idea behind this write up is to inspire students from lesser Privileged places to think big and also to inspire  people to connect with students and contribute to the society. The content in the story is based on what has been told to the auther by (the then ) teachers  in the school . Names of the characters in the story are assumed.)

These days I have been on a mission to reach out to village schools. Seven days and seven different villages to address 2100 students on career selection. Main aim has been to inspire them and to educate them. I shared, with these less privileged students, the available career opportunities in the country. These children dwell in places where schools are scarcely equipped, students rarely have books in hand to read, computer and internet is out of question and hygiene & health are not just comfortably compromised but also taken in their stride. As they say lotuses bloom in the marsh! I get overwhelmed and amazed to see certain success stories coming out of these villages. Here I share one such story with you today.

I share a story as told to me by a set of school teacher from Karpawand which is is a small village 45 kms from Jagdalpur. With a sub 8000 population the place has not more than 500 hutments. The village is a nature’s paradise. So much of greenery that you can get overdose of oxygen! A village where you can see the greenery of Mais  farming in every hutment. A lot of corn ( bhutta) is produced and sold in other parts of the country by the villagers. Apart from Corn fields the only other occupation is cashew nut farming.

A school dress in light blue and dark blue ( given  by the  government to students under special schemes) is the only luxury that a parent can afford to their children. Study books and other learning material is scarcely available for students. There is no stationary shop even in the village . Light from the earthen pot (only no moon nights) enables the student’s to learn their lessons at home on examination days.

Ganaram ( assumed name) lived in a small outfit in the region and studied at a local school in the vicinity. He always dared to stare at the sun and asked many questions about the sun to his teachers and parent. He was curious about the light and the energy coming from the sun. Ganaram  demonstrated a keen interest in studying science . His parents wanted him to go for higher studies ( middle school) and as such sent him to  a nearby village, for further  education. He had to travel 14 kms on road or bullock cart or an occasional bicycle ride every day.

One old & retired teacher from the village tells that on one particular 5th September ( teachers day) one senior government officer was invited to preside over a function in the school. ( no one remembers the name of this noble government officer anyway )  While going round the school and chatting with children, this officer happened to meet a boy who looked sad. Ganaram  was unhappy because he wanted to learn more about physics and science but his family had told him that this was his last year of school education. Next year onwards he would have to get into the farm and start cultivating mais. The officer listened to all that this boy had to say and what happened next is unprecedented.

Enthusiastic Ganaram  got financial assistance from the holy officer to pursue his Bachelor’s degree from Jagdalpur and Masters in Science from some college in Raipur. Subsequently Ganaram  qualified to be a part of  some leading research institute as a scientist. Current status  of Ganaram  ( as informed by the local people)  is that he is a well established researcher somewhere outside India!

If the wonderful officer did not extend his support to Ganaram  would have we lost a great scientist? I guess Yes and am sure you will also agree with me on this. How great was that teacher’s day when Ganaram met with the angle!  Not just for Ganaram , that was a great day also for the nation and for the humanity. In real essence the spirit of mentorship and service to mankind was demonstrated on earth.

Friends we do not need to be employed in a school to become a teacher.  We all are teachers within. At least we all have the potential to be good teachers at home and in the society. Wherever and for whatever purpose we move, the network of being a teacher within should always follow us.  Its time all of us took this responsibility to spread the light of education. Not necessary that we make financial contributions, sometimes just one word of inspiration can as well push someone to great heights.

This teacher’s day lets all pledge that we shall mentor at least one under privileged child in the society. This I think this would be the best tribute to Dr. Sarvepalli Radhakhrishnan. Let’s strive to make life much more knowledgeable and fulfilled for every child on this earth.

LESSONS FOR EXCELLENCE :

* Scientist’s can take birth in a remote village, but they can become so only when someone from better access extends a helping hand.

* It’s our social responsibility to contribute to the upbringing of every student in the society.

* Imparting education is not just the duty of school and school teachers. We the members of this society have an equivalent role to play.

*. You and me have a teacher within, rejuvenate it.

* This teacher’s day, let us all pledge to share the light of education to at least one student in the society.

Ajit Varwandkar

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Post Script : Recently I got an email from a person, who lived in the referred village, stating  that no such Ghanaram ( assumed name ) hails from the village and this story might not be factual.

My submission : Its not just teachers who are responsible to ensure the academic growth of the students, the society shares a collective responsibility. May be, the details shared with me by the school teacher could be distorted. However even if  the story is imaginary, still it can inspire & suggest individual’s to support student’s in distant localities.

Time Management is not the key to success July 23, 2011

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Yes, I repeat the title: Time management is not the key to success. I would go ahead and request you also to repeat it with me once again : Time management is not the key to success! I am sure this is something you never heard of before. There is so much of pollution on the subject of “time management” in the world of self-help guidance & trainings. Google it and you will find that content worth lacs of pages is available on time management. Every next book in the management shelf refers to time management on some page. Leading management gurus conduct workshops and seminars on the concept of time management. With so much of a recognition to time management I still dare to demand: time management is not the key to success.

There is an ancient proverb which says : “Inch of time can not be bought with an inch of gold.” 

…………………..  Complete write-up in my forthcoming book…. for announcement on the book title and launch, pl keep visiting www.aglakadam.com  ……………………………………… 

 

Time does not discriminate between living things.  Even the president of a country gets the same quantum of 24 hours which every other citizen gets!

Ajit Varwandkar

Email : info@fsindia.in

Quench your thirst or cut your throat? July 9, 2011

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Can you be the friend of your enemy? Think twice? It’s a request – read this question thrice & then answer: is it possible for you to be the friend of your enemy? In most probability you would reply in “a big NO”. It’s comprehensible, how can one befriend an enemy? This is sure shot impossible. Going further here is one more question “When did we first learn about friends and foes in life?” Was it at school or at home or while playing with friends on the playground?

…………………..  Complete write-up in my forthcoming book…. for announcement on the book title and launch, pl keep visiting www.aglakadam.com  ……………………………………… 

Ajit Varwandkar

Email : info@fsindia.in

Be the “CEO of Happiness” June 25, 2011

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Be the “CEO of Happiness”

Everything in life is temporary in nature. Let’s look back to the days when we were kids. The house we lived in & the friends we lived with during those days would not be the same today. The life we lived in the past would have gone into the dark tunnels of dreams for most of us by now. In the process of growing up we come across various life situations and also learn to face them. There are surroundings we cannot change & hence we have to accept those as it is. All of us would have faced a situation when someone in the neighborhood died. We had no other option but to see the expressions of sorrow and pain demonstrated by the bereaved family. There was no choice but only compulsion to see them cry and in the process subconsciously we learned the fact of life.  I also had seen one such family in my school days who were crying loads of tears when they lost a loved one in their family. Things were very difficult at that very moment for them to accept. But as we know “change” is the only permanent element in life.  

…………………..  Complete write-up in my forthcoming book…. for announcement on the book title and launch, pl keep visiting www.aglakadam.com  ……………………………………… 

Change is nothing but a challenge, take it smartly.  Be happy always.

Ajit Varwandkar

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“Plan for the BEST but be READY for the unexpected” June 6, 2011

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My father has always admonished me to “hope for the best but be prepared for the worst”. I have been brought up in an environment which always inspired me to look at life in a very positive manner. I strongly felt that “accepting the worst” did defy the learning to be positive and motivated. I have been taught to lead a motivated life and also always believe in oneself. With this back ground it was very difficult for me to accept the readiness for facing the worst! However over a period of learning from life in the previous two decade, I understood the absolute truth in the concept – “to be prepared for the worst”. I have now added value to this proverb and revised it as “Plan for the BEST but be READY for the UNEXPECTED”.  Two inherent changes that I have adopted in coining the NEW proverb are : 1. Not just hope, do plan and 2. Its not the Worst, Its just the Unexpected!

…………………..  Complete write-up in my forthcoming book…. for announcement on the book title and launch, pl keep visiting www.aglakadam.com  ……………………………………… 

 

In the fast changing situations across the world, one can never permanently be in the “safe zone of success”, be ready to embrace & adopt the change.

Ajit Varwandkar

Email : info@fsindia.in